Why talking boosts your wellbeing
When you’re feeling down or stressed, sometimes letting it all out and talking about your problems can feel like a load off. Here’s why something as simple as talking can improve your wellbeing.
Humans are social creatures, and whether you’re an introvert or the life and soul of the party, we all need someone to talk to sometimes. Communication is crucial for building strong relationships but it’s also essential for your mental wellbeing. Here’s why.
Getting support
One of the best benefits of talking to people is the support they give us in return. Talking through a problem with someone else can give you new ways of looking at things, put things into perspective and make you feel validated.
Even if you talk to your mate about something that goes way over their head and they don’t have any practical advice to give, just letting it out can feel great if you’ve been bottling it up. Feeling heard is important, and knowing you’ve got someone to turn to can make all the difference.
Having a support network around you has many benefits. Studies have found that those with people they can turn to are more likely to recover from illness, experience less stress and live longer than those who don’t.
Understanding your feelings
Talking is a great way to release emotions you may have been holding onto, giving you the space to process them and begin working through them. Sometimes it’s hard to know exactly how you feel until you start talking, and if you’ve been holding it all in for a while, they might all tumble out as soon as you start.
Identifying what you’re feeling can help you begin to act to resolve what’s bothering you. If you’re not sure what you’re feeling, that’s ok too – just keep talking and you may find that through the course of the conversation you’ll chance upon something that makes sense.

Knowing you’re not alone
All too often when you’ve got something weighing on your mind it’s easy to think you’re the only one going through it. That can make us feel isolated, and make the problem feel huge and difficult to deal with.
Opening up can help you see that what you’re feeling isn’t rare. It’s thought that 1 in 4 of us suffer with mental health problems, so you can see how likely it is that the mate you confide in will have some experience of what you’re going through.
We all know that stereotype of men not talking to one another about anything deeper than surface-level stuff, but we’re not Neanderthals. Chatting to your mates about whatever’s on your mind will encourage others to open up too, and it’ll bring you closer together.
Improved mental health
Talking is so good for your head. Airing out your problems, thoughts and feelings releases tension and improves your mental health, even if your problems aren’t solved immediately.
Getting support from friends and family is a fantastic idea that can give you a much-needed outsider’s perspective, but sometimes you might find talking to a professional more helpful.
Talking therapy is extremely effective for things like depression and anxiety. It’s so effective because as well as releasing all that’s pent up in your head, a good therapist can give you tools and guidance that’ll help you break free from negative thinking and help you handle stress in a healthier way.
Don’t feel able to talk to a therapist or a friend? The Samaritans is there for you 24 hours a day, 365 days a year thanks to its incredible team of volunteers. They’ll talk through whatever you’re going through with you, in a safe and judgement-free zone. Call 116 123 to talk to them.
Not ready to talk? That’s ok. Talking about things you don’t usually talk about can feel awkward or overwhelming. If you’re not ready, try journaling instead – grab a notebook and a pen, or even the notes app on your phone, and write down thoughts, feelings, or anything you want to get out of your head. This is more one sided than talking to someone, but sometimes writing can also help you make sense of what’s going on in your head, so it’s worth a shot.
If you’re not sure how to start a conversation about what’s on your mind, try using simple prompts like “I’ve been feeling stressed about…” or “Can I talk through something with you?” You don’t have to share everything at once. Even small steps count. If talking feels intimidating, try calming yourself first with a few deep breaths or a quick grounding exercise. And remember, opening up doesn’t always have to be to a person in front of you. Journaling, voice notes, or using the JAAQ digital mental wellbeing platform available to MAN v FAT members can help you process your thoughts and feel supported. You can also share experiences and get advice in the MAN v FAT Facebook community. Taking small, consistent steps toward sharing your feelings can make a big difference for your mental wellbeing.
Get Support and Connect with the wider MAN v FAT Community
Being part of MAN v FAT means you don’t have to face your challenges alone. Join the MAN v FAT Facebook community to share experiences, celebrate small wins, and get advice from members all around the world. For more personalised support, you can also engage in team chats with your local club mates, connecting with people nearby who understand your journey. If you prefer a private or structured space, the JAAQ digital mental wellbeing platform is available to members, offering tools and support to manage your mental health. Start today by joining the Facebook group, getting involved in your local team chats, or exploring JAAQ. Every small step toward sharing and connecting improves your mental wellbeing and keeps you on track with your goals












